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Finding YOUR Joy

Published: September 13, 2019

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Even months after the funeral it’s not uncommon to feel just not exactly right. We all lose our way from time to time. Things happen and we can’t find our JOY. It’s not really so much gone, as it is misplaced. Life feels dull and the days seem to drag.  No matter what the circumstances, if you look for it, you can find your own personal JOY again. However, you will have to work a bit to find it and reconnect.   

To begin, you must put on your little super power cape and take control. You’ll have to take ownership of your joy. Terrible things happen to us in life. Illness of a loved one, your own illness, even the death of a loved one, there really are a lot of things to be unhappy about. You can, however, experience joy in spite of adversity.  Make a positive decision to take your personal joy into your own hands and get it back! 

Start by connecting with your senses, hearing, touch, smell, taste, and sight.  Take them one by one and dig in. What sounds bring you joy? Maybe it’s the sound of little kids on the playground, or the Beatles, or waves crashing on the beach. Get out a piece of paper and make a list. You may be surprised at how many little tiny things you enjoy related to your senses.   

Once you have identified things you like to smell, touch, taste, hear and see, you need to make a plan to get at least one of those things in your life on a daily basis. Turn on the music you love, buy yourself a bouquet of flowers, bake one little chocolate chip cookie every day! What the heck, they make that frozen cookie dough for a reason! Get up early once a week and see the sunrise. Take a walk. Put joy back in your life in its simplest forms. Just go for it. It’s not that hard.   

Once your senses are starting to wake up again, start to think about gratitude. What are you thankful for? That time your dad took you fishing, that your grandmother taught you the names of all the birds, fireworks on the Fourth of July or the beauty of a tree. The list is endless, humbling, and there is joy in gratitude. Be grateful. 

It’s YOUR JOY take it back.

What do you do with cremated remains?

Published: September 6, 2019

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What happens when no one decides what to do with the six pounds of cremated remains that are left following the funeral or memorial service? You might be surprised at some of the unusual places where they show up.

For example, let’s just say you buy a swell little red two-seater sports car and drive that baby home. Of course, you are going to give her a good sprucing up. When you get around to cleaning the trunk you find a non-descript little plastic box. Close inspection reveals it’s full of a chunky greyish white substance. On the bottom of the box you notice there is a label and a name! OMG! You have what’s left of someone you never knew in your trunk! Or, you buy a house and it looks like someone left a nice vase in the attic … you get where I am going with this, right? As life moves on sometimes well-meaning people lose track of the box or urn they were looking after.

Thrift stores and Goodwill are often the recipient of cremated remains. And guess what? They don’t want your great uncle Henry.

How can this be? Well, family members are not always comfortable with the scattering plan the deceased requested. It’s hard to dispose of what remains of someone you loved. Perhaps the plan wasn’t even realistic. The sand trap on the seventh hole is really not an easy place to “scatter” six pounds of crushed bone fragments. It’s not sand. All too often, cremated remains find their way back to the funeral home years after the funeral service took place. It’s the boom-a-rang effect, leaving the funeral home with the task of tracking down a living relative.

The moral of this story is simple. When someone you love tells you they “just want to be cremated” ask this question, “And then what shall we do with your ashes?”. If you are thinking about cremation don’t leave your plan partially complete. Talk to your funeral director or advance funeral planner (both can be found at your local funeral home) about your options for after the cremation. Make sure the family members you designate to carry out your final plan are comfortable and able to take care of the final resting place for your ashes.

Finally, if you have a family member’s cremated ashes in the attic, trunk, or somewhere unusual and you need help with a final plan … call the funeral home. They can help you with choices.

Who Should Record My Funeral Wishes?

Published: September 1, 2019

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There is a woman who once thought that she’d like to have a hologram made of her wearing an Obi-Wan Kenobi robe for her funeral. Her four sons grew up during the Star Wars era and similar to Obi-Wan, she would love to pass along the wisdom she acquired over her lifetime to those she loves. And yes, she would also like to have the last word!  So who should this woman see to discuss and share her wishes? Should she talk to an attorney? Her financial planner? Or a funeral director?

Both her attorney and financial planner suggested they could help but she wasn’t convinced based on her past experience. When her parents died the funeral was over before she even started to work on the finances and the estate. And there was so much attention paid to the final, final part…burial or cremation. She decided to contact her family funeral home and she met with Sue, the advance funeral planner. As it turns out, helping people get their funeral plans in place is Sue’s only job at the funeral home. And help this woman Sue did! 

They talked about what this woman thought she wanted for her funeral plans. They talked a lot about her family – her husband, her four grown up sons, their wives and their children. Sue helped this woman see that although her sons would appreciate the Obi Wan idea, her husband would need something a little more traditional with a spiritual element. They talked about the cost and how she could keep that under control. They also talked about the burial and cremation options. Sue explained to the woman that if she wasn’t ready, she didn’t need to make a decision about burial or cremation. The woman ended up talking to her family about it and she was able to get her wishes recorded at the funeral home and she decided to use a payment plan. With her plan in place, she can go in and change her plans at any time (e.g. if she decides she wants to be cremated at a later date) and Sue will help her with that.

Sue also suggested the woman begin gathering those words of wisdom that she wants to share at her funeral and bring them to Sue so she can put them in the file. On the day of the woman’s funeral, the funeral directors will print these words of wisdom and hand them out to those attending the funeral. As it turns out, holograms aren’t available just yet, but Sue thinks they may be prior to this woman’s death.

In the end, leaving the finances to the financial planner, the will & estate planning to the attorney, and the funeral planning to the funeral home made the most sense for this woman.

September 10, 2018 | 0 Comments | Category: Honoring

15 POEMS AND QUOTES TO HONOR GRANDPARENTS THIS GRANDPARENTS DAY

Compiled by Jenny Goldade

With Grandparents Day approaching this coming Sunday, we wanted to share some inspirational poems and quotes to honor grandparents.

These touching sayings can help us grieve and honor grandparents who are no longer physically with us, but forever in our hearts.

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GRANDPARENTS — UNKNOWN

Grandparents bestow upon

their grandchildren

The strength and wisdom that time

And experience have given them.

Grandchildren bless their Grandparents

With a youthful vitality and innocence

That help them stay young at heart forever.

Together they create a chain of love

Linking the past with the future

The chain may lengthen,

But it will never part…


WE HAD A WONDERFUL GRANDFATHER — UNKNOWN

We had a wonderful grandfather,

One who never really grew old;

His smile was made of sunshine,

And his heart was solid gold;

His eyes were as bright as shining stars,

And in his cheeks fair roses you see.

We had a wonderful grandfather,

And that’s the way it will always be,

But take heed, because

He’s still keeping an eye on all of us,

So let’s make sure

He will like what he sees


OUR GRANDDAD — UNKNOWN

It broke our hearts to lose you,

But you never went alone,

For a part of us went with you,

The day god took you home.

A million times we missed you,

A million times we cried,

If love could have saved you,

You never would have died.

To the grave you travel,

Our flowers placed with care,

No-one knows the heartache,

as we turn to leave you there.

Read the rest of the poem here.

MY LOVING GRANDMOTHER — NIVEDEETA PEREIRA

When I had no shoulder to lean on,

And my eyes were filled with tears.

I had my Nana to count on,

to drive away my fears.

Despite all the wrong I’d done,

When the light I couldn’t see,

Nana was my shining sun,

who gently consoled me.

She always encouraged and inspired me,

to follow my every dream,

she’d tell me that I was not alone,

cause she was my team. 

Read the rest of the poem here.


God Saw You Getting Tired — Unknown

God saw you getting tired

and a cure was not to be

so he put his arms around you

and whispered,


Come to Me.

With tearful eyes we watch you

and saw you pass away

and although we loved you dearly

we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating

hard working hands at rest.

God broke our hearts to prove us

he only takes the best.

Inspirational Quotes

We gathered a collection of quotes to honor grandparents and remember the love they gave:

“Grandparents are a delightful blend of laughter, caring deeds, wonderful stories, and love.” — Unknown

“Between the earth and the sky above, nothing can match a grandmother’s love.” — Unknown

“Grandparents hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever.” — Unknown 

“Sometimes our grandmas and grandpas are like grand-angels.” — Lexie Saige

“Grandparents make the world a little softer, a little kinder, a little warmer.” — Unknown 

“There’s nothing more wonderful than the love and guidance a grandparent can give his or her grandchild.” — Edward Fays 

“My grandmother once said that grief is the price we pay for love.” ­— Prince William

“Some of the world’s best educators are grandparents.” — Charles W. Shedd

“A garden of love grows in a grandmother’s heart.” — Unknown

“A grandfather is someone with silver in his hair and gold in his heart.” — Unknown

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